I’ve been stuck lots of times.
- Out of gas.
- Out of money.
- Out of time.
- Out of patience.
- Out of my comfort zone.
- Out of my league.
- Out of God’s will.
Girlfriend, I have learned an important lesson in these seasons of not enough.
I have learned to ask for help.
Sounds so easy, but ugh, who wants to do it? Wouldn’t you rather be the one who comes to the rescue? The one who drops off the meal or writes the check or offers the good advice?
Yeah, me too. But sometimes we’re the ones who need the help. That’s when it’s time to call in reinforcements. Someone who will talk you out of the tree you’re in or pray for you like your life depends on it or brainstorms a strategy of transformation.
I ask for help even if it’s awkward. Or if it’s embarrassing. Even if it’s humbling. I ask for help. Do you? Can you? Ask for help?
As hard as it is to admit I’m not superwoman, here’s what I’ve discovered about asking for help.
Asking for help shrinks the problem – just by speaking it aloud.
When the only voice in my head is my own, fear and worry multiply.
When you talk about how you’re stuck, the issue usually shrinks.
Asking for help puts more than one brain, back, and pair of hands on the problem.
When I ask for help to get unstuck, I always get several suggestions I hadn’t thought of.
The weight and the work of the “stuck” is handled more easily when I have help.
Asking for help honors the person I ask to help me.
- When I ask someone to teach me how to do something, I’m saying, “Hey, you’re really good at this!”
- When I ask someone to advise me, I’m saying, “You’re wise or smart!”
- When I ask someone to hold me accountable, I’m saying, “You’re strong and I trust you!”
- When I ask someone to pray for me, I’m saying, “You have won my confidence and I believe you hear from God.”
It’s a win – win for everyone.
I get the help, support, advice and prayer I need and my helpers get edified, complimented and honored at the same time.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness! It’s wisdom.
Don’t get schnookered into thinking you can’t ask for help. You can. God never intended us to live this life alone, or scared. We are created to live in community with believers who love and support one another.
What have you learned from asking for help? Leave me a comment below.
Scripture: Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NIV)
Prayer: Father, You did not create us to do this life alone. Help me to ask for help as easily as I offer help to others. Remind me that I need not be alone and you have put sisters in Christ in my life to be the extra hands and feet when I cannot do it myself. Amen