My heart breaks as I listen to the news of
killings in our country and around the world.
Regardless of who you are or where you come from,
when someone you love dies,
it blows a hole in your heart,
changes your life forever.
My experience being widowed twice in four years
gives me the courage to say
you can make a difference in the process of grief.
Here are 9 ways to help mitigate the agony when
tragedy strikes close to home.
Look for the person who is grieving.
Smile at them.
Talk with her or him.
Don’t avoid them because you don’t know what to say,
or you feel uneasy.
Push through the feeling of awkwardness,
they need you.
Here’s advice from the American Cancer Society about that.
It is common to feel awkward when trying to comfort someone who is grieving.
Many people do not know what to say or do.
Here are suggestions to use as a guide.
Acknowledge the situation.
Example: “I heard that your_____ died.”
Use the word “died”.
That will show that you are more open to talk about how the person really feels.
Express your concern.
Example: “I’m sorry to hear that this happened to you.”
Be genuine in your communication and don’t hide your feelings.
Example: “I’m not sure what to say, but I want you to know I care.
Offer your support.
Example: “Tell me what I can do for you.”
Pray for them often and tell them that you are.
Ask them how they need God to show up in their life.
Do they need provision?
How about wisdom for parenting?
What about all the decisions they have to make?
I assure you they need prayer for the grace to deal with
people who will undoubtedly say inappropriate things!