Are You Comparing Your Real Life To Someone Else’s Social Media Life?

It’s too easy to look at social media and
compare what’s going on in my house
to what I see in my newsfeed.

In this season of busyness and frivolity,
it’s easy to lose your focus
by all the distractions.

If you’re anything like me,
you start to focus on what everyone else is
or delighting in.

Comparisons take up the space
in my mind and heart that
God is supposed to inhabit.

Instead of being thankful for what I have,
I focus on what
SHE has,
or what SHE does,
or what SHE gets
or how SHE looks.

I compare home decorating skills,
culinary prowess,
the number of Christmas cards received,
the extravagance of gifts,
and the size of her dress.

Tell me I’m not alone!

The problem with comparisons is that
things are rarely what they seem.

Comparing HER Facebook life
or her “Church on Sunday” life
to MY real life is never a good plan.

No one I know posts pictures of the
burned dinner,
broken hearts,
or binge-feasting. 

Comparisons are only
good for statisticians.

It’s my experience that
comparing my Christmas light display with the neighbor’s
only makes me feel sad and inadequate.

Reset your focus! to stope the comparisons.
Just enjoy the neighbor’s display without the expense of her electric bill!
Use her house as the landmark to find mine!

When tempted to compare my “Pinterest fail” plate of
Christmas cookies at the holiday exchange…
Reset your focus!
Enjoy the delicacies created by someone with more
talent and time to spend in the kitchen!

Comparing on the diamond necklace my co-worker got from her husband
could make me forget that Mr. 4-Ever makes me feel like a diamond everyday.
Reset your focus!

This holiday season,
I’m letting go of comparisons and
focusing on being thankful for what I have. 

Would you join me?

 Let’s start every day this
Christmas season
in thankful reflection.

Tell God what you’re thankful for.

From the grandest gift of your salvation
to the minutest of details.

You’ll be pleasantly surprised with the peace that falls
and the joy that will bubble in your heart.

God, you are the giver of wonderful gifts. Remind me daily of the greatest gift you gave at Calvary. Help me be delighted with what I have/

Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Colossians 3:15 (NIV)


  1. Sharon Van Antwerp on December 4, 2017 at 1:17 am

    Robyn, You are so down to earth. Thank you for being real. Sharon

  2. Beverly Egly on December 4, 2017 at 1:56 am

    Robyn I am always encouraged by reading your blogs. Thank you and keep looking up

  3. Susan Porcenaluk on December 4, 2017 at 11:00 am

    I appreciate those that have the time, resources and talent needed to create beautiful displays, food etc that I can enjoy! Relax and think how much you like the store or community Christmas celebration! Your close family and media friends celebrate with you!! The pressure is off.

    • Robyn Dykstra on December 11, 2017 at 6:00 am

      Great advice, Susan!

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