Left out, Overlooked, Forgotten
The conversation turned awkward with the realization that I hadn’t been included in the festivities my friends were reminiscing about.
Smiling faces beamed in the Facebook photos of a wedding I wasn’t invited to.
The note read, “Your old friend died last month. I’m so sorry, we just forgot to let you know …”
What to do when you get hurt?
Hide? Curl up in the fetal position and suck your proverbial thumb till the hurt goes away … or till the next time or the next trigger reminds you you’re not enough.
Pretend? Post your own fun pictures and talk about your recent exploits. Put on a happy face and pretend being left out and overlooked doesn’t matter.
Retaliate? Blast a nasty text or post with tags galore … but even if you get some temporary relief or satisfaction, inevitably, a harsh response only causes more hurt and often bigger regret.
Go where you’re celebrated.
Instead of burying your hurt or lashing out, find places and people who will celebrate you.
- Run to a Godly friend who will remind you of all your wonderful qualities and put you back on track with kind assurances and wisdom.
- Best yet, cry to God himself and wait for his peace to fall. For the Holy Spirit to whisper that you …
- Are loved and accepted by the One who made you.
- Will always be included in His plans.
- Are never alone or forgotten.
Pursue God’s Presence.
Being left out, overlooked or forgotten feels rotten. But letting those hurt feelings fester and rule us is just as bad.
It’s in the Presence of God that we can find the grace, humility and courage to forgive those who didn’t invite us, include us, or remember us and where we can be filled with the holiness and peace and love of God.
What’s your best advice for fending off feeling alone or forgotten?
Verse of the day:Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me— everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you. Phil. 4:6-9
Prayer: God, you are always with me even when I feel so alone and isolated and overlooked. Let me sense your presence and experience your love for me. In Jesus name, amen.