Mother’s Day Monday
Before I learned to focus on what I’ve got, rather than what I’ve not, I used to dread the Monday following Mother’s Day.
As if the cascade of FB posts on Mother’s Day weren’t enough to create a case of the covets, every conversation on Mother’s Day Monday was about being showered with attention and gifts.
Now, don’t get me wrong…Mr. 4-Ever is a great husband.
If I could, I would clone him and give him away as Christmas presents to women who want a Godly man with impeccable character.
But the clone would have to come with a disclaimer.
This is a good man. He is kind, gentle, loving, fun, hard-working, generous, and patient. He is creative and calm in all situations. He is a great kisser.
But … a Harlequin Romance novel hero … He. Is. Not.
Rarely do flowers or chocolates show up on my desk. Good behavior gifts and “just-because-I-love-you” texts do not happen.
So, when I hear all the folderol other women enjoyed on Mother’s Day, something quite ugly rises up in me as I compare my man (and day) to theirs. I forget all his fine qualities and focus on his shortcomings.
Comparison kills contentment
Never mind, that Mr. 4-Ever plants flowers I can enjoy everyday from my window.
…Never mind that he’s a grill master rivaling the best restaurant offerings.
…Never mind that he never leaves a mess in the bathroom and takes complete responsibility for our car and home maintenance.
…Never mind that he accommodates my ever changing mind…
…and preferences without complaint.
Never mind that he always seeks to make our lives better, richer, and more enjoyable.
On the Monday after Mother’s Day, Mr. 4-Ever’s ratings are low.
What do I do?
I’m thrilled with my man until I compare a snapshot of someone else’s life to mine.
Comparisons kill contentment.
To get contentment back, the Apostle Paul gives just the advice we need to regain our balance and contentment.
It hinges on BEING GRATEFUL.
When contentment is displaced by contention (because you’re comparing) STOP!
- Focus on what you’ve got, instead what you’ve not.
- Each of us has mountains of things to be thankful for.
- Count your blessings.
- Be grateful instead of grousing.
Mother’s Day can be a trigger of ungratefulness.
In other seasons of life, I’ve had to remember that I prayed for children…especially when they were busier and messier than I ever imagined.
I had to remember how I begged for a charming old farm house with lots of character…
especially when it needs constant upkeep and tender loving care.
I have to remember to trust God with my speaking and writing ministry… especially when the blank screen stares at me and there are lots of open spaces on my calendar.
To shift my attitude from
grumbling to grateful,
I have to focus on what I’ve got,
instead what I’ve not.
When I remember all I have to be grateful for, my contentment falls into place, my peace returns, my effectiveness is multiplied, and I am a delight to be around.
How about you?
Do you need to adjust your thinking today?
Do you need to count what you’ve GOT instead of what you’ve NOT?
What do you do to keep from comparison crazy thinking?
Share in the comments below. I’m sure it will encourage others to know we’re not alone.
“The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.” –Psalm 23:1 (NIV)