Key to Not Feeling Left Out!

Have you ever stumbled into a situation you wished you hadn’t?  

My feelings got hurt when several friends chattered away about a party EVERYONE had gone to. The conversation turned awkward with the realization that I hadn’t been asked to the festivities my friends were reminiscing about because I was no longer a party-girl. Not included.

My smile faded when I saw the beaming faces in my Facebook newsfeed of a friend’s wedding I wasn’t invited to attend. Not invited.

Tears fell hot as I read the note that my relative died but no one thought to notify me. Not remembered.

What do you do when you get left out?

Hide?

I’m tempted to curl up in the fetal position and suck my proverbial thumb till the hurt goes away. 

Pretend?

Why not post my own fun pictures of a recent exploit, complete with big smiles and dead eyes.  

Retaliate?

I resist the urge to blast a nasty text or write a blistering email. 

Run?

Where can I go to outrun the hurt?

A better solution.

When you are feeling left out, overlooked, forgotten, consider this. There is One who will never leave you or forsake you. That One has your name on his heart.

If you run, run to a Godly friend who will put you back on track with words of wisdom and comfort or correction. If you hide, hide in God’s Word where you see many of Biblical heroes and heroines experiencing their own moments of hurt sustained by His great love. Better yet, run to God himself. Cry out to Him and wait for his peace to fall. For the Holy Spirit to whisper to you are …

  • Loved and accepted by the ONE who made you.
  • Always included.
  • Never alone.
  • Not forgotten.

It’s in the Presence of God and the people who represent Him well that we can find the grace, humility and courage to forgive and extend our heart to those who didn’t invite us, include us, or remember us.

Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me — everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you. Phil. 4:6-9

Leave me a comment to tell me what you do to ease the hurt of being left out or overlooked. 

Prayer: God, it hurts to be left out, overlooked, not included. Be the caulk that fills in the cracks of my broken heart. Remind me that I can trust you to always love me, celebrate me, invite me.