Lessons learned in seasons of not enough.
Girlfriend, I have learned an important lesson in this season of not enough. Ask for help. Sounds so easy, but ugh, who wants to do it? I’m sure you’d rather be the one who comes to the rescue. The one who drops off the meal or writes the check or offers the good advice. I know I would.
But sometimes we’re the ones who need the help. We mistakenly think joy comes only from giving, when in fact there is great joy that comes from receiving. We need to let others experience the joy of giving while we learn to receive the gift.
God gave us the greatest gift, eternal life through Jesus’ death and resurrection. And what joy we have receiving that gift!
Call in reinforcements!
I’ve had 15 events cancel and more hang in limbo. UGH!!! I’d applied for unemployment but hadn’t heard anything back. No stimulus check in my mailbox. With reserves low (emotional, social and financial), I needed help so I called in reinforcements.
I do not like being in this situation, but friends have paid for groceries, dropped money in my accounts, written sweet words of encouragement, lent me a listening ear and offered me great advice. While I have been sequestered in my home, they have prayed for good news in this time when I can’t share the Good News from a platform.
Though it was hard to admit I needed help, the feelings of relief were immeasurable.
Call in reinforcements when you’re stuck. Ask a friend to talk you down from the crazy tree, or pray for you like your life depends on it, or brainstorm a strategy of transformation.
Ask for help even if it’s awkward. Or if it’s embarrassing. Even if it’s humbling. Ask for help.
Asking for help made easier.
As hard as it is to admit I’m not superwoman, here’s what I’ve discovered about asking for help.
1. Asking for help shrinks the problem – just by speaking it aloud. When the only voice in my head is my own, fear and worry multiply. When you talk about how you’re stuck, the issue usually shrinks and peace can be restored.
2. Asking for help puts more muscle, ideas and resources on the problem. When I ask for help, I always get several suggestions I hadn’t thought of and access to support I don’t have on my own. The weight and the work of the “stuck” is handled more easily when I have help.
3. Asking for help honors the person and blesses them.
- When I ask someone to teach me how to do something, I’m saying, “Hey, you’re really good at this!”
- Asking someone to advise me says, “You’re wise or smart!”
- If I ask someone to hold me accountable, I’m saying, “You’re strong and I trust you!”
- When I ask someone to pray for me, I’m saying, “You have won my confidence and I believe you hear from God.”
- Needing a meal or encouragement or gift provides them a way to bless you and feel great about helping.
I get the help, support, advice and prayer I need and my helpers get edified, complimented and honored at the same time.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness!
Don’t get schnookered into thinking you can’t ask for help. You can. You’re not a bother or a burden or a loser. Listen, God never intended us to live this life alone, or scared or broken. We are created to live in community with believers who love and support one another.
Girl, if you’re stuck or hurting or just plain feeble right now, ask for help. That’s how the body of Christ works. We are all in this together.
Leave me a comment below about what you need right now and I’ll agree in prayer for you to receive it.
Verse for today: Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NIV)
Prayer: Father, You did not create us to do this life alone. Help me to ask for help as easily as I offer help to others. Remind me that I need not be alone and you have put sisters in Christ in my life to be the extra hands and feet when I cannot do it myself. Amen