Resistance Does Not Always Mean Stop

Failure is an effective teacher. 

When Dave went to college, algebra was a requirement to graduate. He’s good at numbers, but not when math equations include letters of the alphabet. My man failed algebra four times!

Every time he failed, another lie was etched in his heart. You’ll never pass this class. Just give up. You’re not good at math. You’re more of an artist. Your mind isn’t wired for algebra. You won’t need to know this stuff in the real world.

After five years at the university, (including one year in Spain filming a documentary), he was still one algebra class short of his required core curriculum to graduate.

Eager to get on with his life and unwilling to dedicate any more time to algebra, he gave up and moved on.

He enjoyed success in business as a film and video producer, got married to me, adopted our boys and rarely thought about algebra.

A new season of life.

But then, our oldest kid got to high school. Jake is a math whiz, who tested out of core math classes so he could take AP classes. After a lifetime of problem solving, Dave thought he could do the same —  test out — and conquer that algebra class.

He failed … again.

More determined than ever, he took an online algebra class.

Another fail.

Finally, he re-enrolled in college, signed up for algebra and made it a full time occupation. He went to the math lab everyday like it was a job. He solicited help from teachers and hired private tutors half his age who coaxed his answers onto the paper.

He got a 17% on his first quiz but kept going. Kept asking for help. Continued doing the work.

As a reward for his hard word and perseverance, Dave passed algebra with a B+, completing his degree and conquering the lies in his head.

Resistance does not always mean stop. 

We often think of resistance as God’s way of telling us to reconsider, change lanes, move on or just stop. All too often we use opposition, awkwardness, and past failures as a reason to quit too soon.

We settle for less than God’s best, calling it contentment when it’s really complacency. 

God’s best for Dave was to contend for a passing grade in algebra not only so he could get his degree, but to prove how resistance makes us stronger, more dependent on God, and prove we are capable of hard things. 

Dave’s part was to:

  • Humble himself and ask for help from 18 year old pimply-faced tutors.
  • Sacrifice some of his income, working part time to attend school full time.
  • Not give up when it was hard and awkward and expensive.

Excuses or reasons?

So, I have to ask you. What are you using as reason that is really an excuse not to contend for God’s best?

  • Do you tell yourself you don’t need to pray cuz God just does what he wants anyway?
  • Perhaps, you are convicted to give up food or wine or shopping or swearing or manipulating or embellishing, but you tell yourself that’s just the way God made you.
  • Would you love to be a nurse or accountant or teacher, but think you’re too old to go back to school?
  • Does the thought of having your own business or going into full-time ministry excite you, but instead of going for it, you tell yourself it’s too late or too hard?
  • Would you tithe if not for the fact that God doesn’t need your money as much as you do?

Going for God’s best.

Girlfriend, God wants the best for us, but we have to participate in getting it. If you have the power to change your circumstances for the better while remaining obedient to God, do so.

A closed door does not mean God is against the plan. We need to stop making excuses and take responsibility for making personal and spiritual growth.

What are you sensing God inviting you to change or grow or shift to experience an abundant life? Leave me a comment and I will pray in agreement for you to have courage and opportunity in Jesus Name!

Verse for today: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. Phil 3:13b-14 NIV

Prayer: Lord. Sometimes I just get so tired of fighting and so weary of the resistance to my dreams and goals. Put a want-to in me that can’t be quenched. Lead me toward completion and strengthen me to continue to press on. I want all you have for me, so continue to carry on. In Jesus Name amen.


  1. Lauri A Aksamit on July 11, 2021 at 4:10 pm

    Thank you so much for this lesson today. I am struggling with a son that has a drug addiction and another son that has autism both adults. Please pray for my sons Austin and James.

    • Robyn Dykstra on July 11, 2021 at 9:10 pm

      Oh Lauri, What a hard mama prayer. Lord, Fortify Lauri and corral her sons. Woo them into submission to you to live a life that works and brings joy. Jesus, be our God. amen

  2. Kate Furnish on July 11, 2021 at 4:55 pm

    Robyn thank you for the wisdom and the challenge. I keep letting go of what is behind and pressing forward toward the goal for which God has called me. I am teaching joy mastery and will continue to pursue venues to share it with groups and individuals. I will continue to know this is a message people need.

    • Robyn Dykstra on July 11, 2021 at 9:09 pm

      That is awesome, Kate. Message me if you want some ideas for how to find places to take your message!

  3. Cathy I on July 11, 2021 at 6:57 pm

    Great message…. I really need God’s Direction and leading.

    • Robyn Dykstra on July 11, 2021 at 9:08 pm

      Hey Cathy, Thanks for posting. I agree with you in prayer for clear direction from the Lord. amen!

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