The Secret to Being Thankful is Focus

The secret to
being thankful
is focus.

When I learned to drive motorcycles,
I discovered very quickly that
where you look is
where you go!

Through the curves,
around the obstacles
into the ditch!

In this season of busyness and frivolity,
it’s easy to lose your focus.

If you’re anything like me,
you start to focus on what everyone else is
or delighting in.

Comparisons take up the space
in my mind and heart that
God is supposed to inhabit.

Instead of being thankful for what I have,
I focus on what
SHE has,
or what SHE does,
or what SHE gets
or how SHE looks.

I compare home decorating skills,
culinary prowess,
the number of Christmas cards received,
the extravagance of gifts,
and the size of her dress.

Tell me I’m not alone!

The problem with comparisons is that
things are not always what they seem.

Comparing HER Facebook life
or her “Church on Sunday” life
to MY real life is never a good plan.

No one I know posts pictures of the
burned dinner,
broken hearts,
or binge-festing. 

Comparisons are only
good for statisticians.

It’s my experience that
comparing my Christmas light display with the neighbor’s
could make me feel sad and inadequate.


Why not enjoy it without the expense of her electric bill?
Why not use her house as the landmark to find mine?

Comparing my “Pinterest fail” plate of Christmas cookies at the exchange
could make me feel like the worst baker in the group.


Why not enjoy the delicacies created by someone with more
talent and time to spend in the kitchen?

Comparing on the diamond necklace my co-worker got from her husband
could make me forget that Mr. 4-Ever makes me feel like a diamond everyday.

The secret to being thankful is focus.

This holiday season,
I’m letting go of comparisons and
focusing on being thankful.

Would you join me?

Let’s start every day this
Christmas season
in thankful reflection.

Tell God what you’re thankful for.

From the grandest gift of your salvation
to the minutest of details.

You’ll be pleasantly surprised with the peace that falls
and the joy that will bubble in your heart.

 Scripture Refresher: Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Colossians 3:15 (NIV)