There Are Seasons For Everything

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There are seasons for everything.

That can be good news if you’re in the midst of a nasty one.

But what if you like where you are?

It is my experience that changes are not always welcome.

When my boy completed his training as a fire fighter in Charleston, S.C.,
he called to tell me about the details of his graduation ceremony.
He was ecstatic.
It made the fact that he lived 1000 miles away
almost worth it to know
we’d finally be celebrating his dream of becoming a firefighter.

“Mom,” he said excitedly, “The Chief will there to present my diploma personally. 
She’ll shake my hand and give me my official badge. 
I’m even allowed to ask someone to walk on the stage with me!
It’s supposed to be a person of importance. 
A person who has helped me achieve my goal of becoming a firefighter.”

I waited for it.

In my mind, I could see us walking across the stage,
me beaming with pride and smiling as I pinned the
DYKSTRA badge on his crisp blue uniform shirt.

He continued,
“Mom, I asked Kym to walk with me.
I’m going to marry her this summer and it seemed like the right choice.
I didn’t think you’d care.
You don’t care do you, Mom?”

Now, what I wanted to say is,
Listen, Mister, NOONE on this earth loves you as much as I do.
NOONE has done more to get you to where you are today.
Of course I care!
I want to be the one to show you off and tack that badge on your shirt.
I am your mother!
What are you thinking!

But, I didn’t say any of that.

I couldn’t if I wanted to keep my son growing and moving into his future.

What I said was, “Eli, I think that’s great.
What a good idea.
I will be in the audience cheering every step you two take. 
I am so proud of you.
From now on, I will always be your second-best girl.”

“Thanks, Mom. I can’t wait to see you.”

I got off the phone and just bawled.

I had done such a splendid job of raising my boy that he didn’t need his mommy any more.

He could solve his own problems.
He made great decisions.
He knew how to take care of himself and his soon to be wife.

Just like that, the season changed.

From the best seat in the audience,
I watched with pride as Eli and his beautiful fiancee accepted
congratulations and honors at the graduation ceremony. 
I clapped and cheered as she pinned his badge on his shirt.
I smiled and snuffled as they took
the first of many walks together into their future as one.

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I’m so glad I didn’t get in the way.

It was painful to let go, but it was time for a season change.

God knew that season was coming,
just like he knows when your season is about to change. 

I lean on knowing how much he loves me so I can trust him when I’m
shaking with fear or
dreading the future or
walking into a new season.

How about you?

What season are you in right now?
If you’re in a comfortable season, enjoy it!
If you’re in a season of transition, hang on and watch for God to move.

I pray you have the courage to stay the course or
the courage to get out of the way.
I pray you have the discernment to know which one to do.

Scripture Refresher: There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens  Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV

Prayer:  God, Lead me in and out of season. Draw me to you and into my future. Help me to trust you when it seems terrifying and exciting all at the same time. Give me the discernment to know what to do when. I lean on the fact that you love me and want the best for me.