Mr 4-Ever and I have been locked up together for months and I was experiencing TOGETHERNESS OVERLOAD!
If your marriage has deteriorated into ho-hum, wouldn’t you like to take the dog for ANOTHER walk, Honey, … take a lesson from my marriage playbook to rekindle the flame of love and appreciation for your man.
1. Let him know you’re committed to him. Not just the marriage, to him!
It’s not enough to just avoid divorce. Marriage isn’t 50-50. Divorce is 50-50. Marriage takes an ALL IN, ALL THE TIME commitment.
If your man came home and told you he was willing to stay married to you, but he didn’t feel any commitment, desire or attachment to you, how would you feel?
Oh, he’ll pay the mortgage and go to the Christmas parties, but he’s only in it for appearances and the kids. With you, he’s done. Ugh.
Be committed to your man, not just to the marriage.
2. Affirm him.
Remember when you were dating? You couldn’t take your eyes off of him. Laughed at all his jokes. Told everyone – (including your mother and best friend) about all his great qualities. You were fun and you had fun together.
He thought you were going to be like that after you got married, too.
The most important person in your husband’s life is YOU! You have the potential to undermine him or empower him by how you show love to him.
Figure out how to tell him, You rock my world and I’d be lost without you!Then do those things!
- Speak kindly to him.
- Speak well of him to others.
- Smile at him every time you see him.
- Look at him when he talks to you.
- Pray for him.
- Iron a shirt.
- Scratch his back.
- Watch his team win (or lose).
- Solicit his advice.
- Watching admiringly as he lifts a heavy object.
- Compliment his prowess with something that baffles you.
- Praise his work.
- Applaud his parenting skills.
- Buy him a gift.
- Kiss him like you mean it.
3. Remember he has your best interest at heart.
It’s highly unlikely that your husband stays up at night plotting ways to make you miserable.
If you base your expectations of marriage on what you read in magazines and romance novels, your man will fail you often.
Your man can’t read your mind. Men aren’t very good at picking up hints either.
Generally speaking, what you focus on grows. Think back to the things that made you want to marry him. Make a list of all his great qualities as a husband, father, worker/provider, friend, etc. Dwell on those things about him and believe he has your best interest at heart.
What you focus on grows.
Marriage is hard work, but you can survive togetherness overload for you and your husband by being the best wife you can be instead of focusing on what’s wrong with your marriage and your man.
Let me know how it’s going! I’d love to hear what works for you.
Verse for today: Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:12-14 NIV
Prayer: God, help to see what I need to do to be the best wife for my husband. Remind me to show my husband how dear he is to me.