What Do You Do When You Lose Out?

business woman holding a poster with a painted face on it instead of a face, the concept of duplicity in business

I just found out that I lost out!

 I missed out on a big speaking job that I really wanted. 
I thought I had a good shot at it. 
I was qualified and available.
My fee range was well within their honorarium budget.
 It was easy driving distance to the venue.
I had a great rapport with the event planner. 
But, I didn’t get the gig.
Someone else will be speaking there next year.

The disappointment.

For the rest of the day, I was down in the dumps.
I didn’t engage with other potential clients via phone or email.
Who would hire me? was the recording playing in my head.
I even had writer’s block.
But then, who would read my stuff anyway? I thought to myself.
I tried to cheer up, but I just couldn’t seem to rally.

Does that ever happen to you?

Discouragement of one kind or another TANKS you!

I’m confident that discouragement is our
nemy’s favorite tactic to disable us.

Once I’m discouraged, I don’t need to be tempted, or deceived or attacked.
I am out of commission until I find my way back to the the face of God.

Discouragement depletes your energy, self-confidence and stamina.
Discouragement can be so oppressive,
you don’t even want to try to find your way out.

If that happens to you,
here is how you can find your way back to hope. 

 Remember God loves you more than your enemy hates you.
 Stand firm. Your problems are not bigger than your God.
Believe God has a good plan for you and it can’t be thwarted.
 Trust that God hears your prayers and will answer them.
 Know that praising God chases off disappointment and it’s owner.
Press on (after a good cry and a nap).

If you find yourself discouraged because of
losing out or being left out or not being lifted out,
remember you’re not alone.

It’s okay to have yourself a good snot cry and lament.
But don’t let discouragement take hold.
Reach out to God and he will rescue you from that miry pit.

Scripture Refresher:  When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. Psalm 34:17-19

Prayer: Father, find me in the depths of my discouragement and draw me near to you. Let me find  fresh hope in your word, your presence and your people. Strengthen me, fortify me, remind me of my position in your kingdom. Amen.


  1. Judy on February 25, 2016 at 5:42 pm

    Thanks Robyn, I need this reminder. I met you at St. Paul’s in Hamburg, MI last fall. I lost my job after 31 years and 3 months to the day in July. I still have not been able to get a full time job and have felt I have lost out on so many jobs I felt I was prefect for.

    I have only had a few days that I have felt discourage and yesterday was one of those days. So your newsletter was a go reminder, that God has a plan for my I just need to keep my ears and eyes open to it.

    I hope and pray you are well and thanks again for doing what you do. Judy

    • Robyn Dykstra on February 28, 2016 at 11:21 pm

      Thanks for letting me know that you can relate.
      I am praying for excellent opportunities for both of us as we trust God for the details and timing. 🙂

  2. Jeanne Black on February 25, 2016 at 6:23 pm

    If it is a really big disappointment I will spend a while feeling sad leading to wasting energy feeling worthless. Then God reminds me that He is always with me and wants the best for me. I start thinking about all the ways he has protected me. Even one time when I had a job I didn’t like, I can now see that I was right where He wanted me to be. That fills me with His strength to go on living the life He wants for me and I realize I want also. I hope this doesn’t sound like it is easy to do. It takes time.

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