Where Is God When You Need Him?

Are you in the wilderness?

Are you in a season of wondering if God cares about you or even sees you? Does it seem like He led you into a wilderness and forgot where he left you?

I feel like that a lot whenever I launch a new series of talks, a service, or book. I have a “moment” or two when it feels like I might have misread the signals God sent. That I am all alone and forgotten. That I will die out here in the wilderness.

Then God shows up in some extravagant way to reassure me that I am not forgotten at all. That’s what happened when Almida said she had a present for me. 

I need to tell you Almida is an interesting woman. Her wisdom, life experiences and prayers have been my life line for decades. Russian by birth, she escaped the Nazis by walking across Europe only to live in a refuge camp for months before getting a sponsor in the US. She made a living as a tailor until she married an entrepreneur who made a boatload of money as a building developer. Her husband, Willy, died at 41 in a plane crash leaving her devastated. Her grief was compounded when Willy’s business partner bankrupted the business, depleting her resources and retirement.

Almida is now 87, and resides in an assisted living facility. The pain in her hip is her constant companion, making an outing to any store a major ordeal. She’s frugal by necessity and was never a big believer in “good behavior” gifts. It wasn’t my birthday and Christmas was long gone, so I couldn’t imagine what gift she might have for me.

A piece of advice?
A photo of us?
A prayer? 

God’s gifts may not look like you expect.

“What do you mean, you have a present for me, Almida?” I asked.

“I’m going to give you my mink coat,” she answered in her heavy accent, with a tone that suggested there would be no arguing. “Willy bought it for me but I have no place to wear it. With all your travels, you should have it now.”

I did some quick math and calculated that this coat must be 50 years old.  Oh dear, I thought, what am I going to do with an ancient mink coat? I pictured images of movie stars and glamour girls from the 40’s. I pictured me showing up to speak at an event in a mink coat! What is the message that sends to people? Can I even wear fur? Is that a thing? 

“Almida, I’m a foot taller than you and outweigh you by … a lot! I doubt your coat will fit me.”
“Oh, sure it will.” There was that tone again.

After we hung up the phone, I googled pictures of full-length mink coats from 50 years ago. Oh, dear. This coat might be wildly out of style. It might be missing little tufts of fur in spots. What in the world was I going to do with a mink coat? 

Still, it was a magnanimous gesture and I decided that I would love that coat even if I couldn’t get into it, even if it was out of style, even if it has signs of wear. Better on me than in a landfill somewhere. 

A couple months later, my speaking schedule landed us within an hour of Almida’s apartment.

She welcomed us in. Her face was full of what was either mischief or delight. After a bit of chit chat, she went to the cloak closet and pulled out a what looked like an oriental bathrobe. Fur peeked out of the collar and I held my breath.

“I don’t know if you will like it, but I want you to have it,” said Almida as she unwrapped it. 

As the protective cloth covering was unpeeled, an immaculate dark brown mink coat with a black fox trim appeared. It looked brand new and was such a classic style no one would ever guess it’s age.

I slipped into it and twirled in front of the mirror.
It was gorgeous! I was gorgeous! It fit like it was meant for me. 

Why am I telling you this story?

Because at a moment when I questioned God’s providence and leading, he gifted me a with a mink coat. An extravagant, elegant mink coat.

It was if God said, “I see you and I’ve got you covered, Robyn. In every way, I’m watching over you and I have you covered.”


Not what I expected. Not what I would have ever thought to ask for.

This time it was a mink coat. Other times it’s been an encouraging card in the mail or a good report from the doctor. 

We adjust to life’s exciting twists and unpleasant turns by trusting God with unwavering faith. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, look at what God has given or gifted you that demonstrates his love to you.

How has God shown you he is with you and concerned about your life and all the details you fret about? Leave me a comment telling me how God has provided or protected you in a way you didn’t expect. I can’t wait to read them. 

Prayer: Father in Heaven, thank you for the perfect reassurance and for your perfect timing. I love you and trust you to fill in all the gaps and reassure me of your presence. In Jesus Name, Amen.


Dave and I ready for a fancy pants date.


  1. Kathy Strickland on April 28, 2019 at 11:16 pm

    I laughed out loud………such a beautiful story. Such a beautiful gift. You look like a cover girl ready for date with Mr. Handsome.
    My take……God has all of my needs in His ever lovin’ hands,….and then some.

    • Robyn Dykstra on April 29, 2019 at 2:37 am

      Thanks for writing Kathy and thank you for the nice compliment. I receive it. 🙂

  2. Lauri Aksamit on April 28, 2019 at 11:43 pm

    Love your story. Thanks so much for your ministry. What other books have you written besides, “The Widow Wears Pink?”

    Lauri Aksamit

    • Robyn Dykstra on April 29, 2019 at 2:36 am

      Hi Laurie,
      I have written the one book and a thousand blogs and speeches. 🙂 Maybe there will be another book in the future. 🙂

  3. Ruth Rottier on April 29, 2019 at 12:33 am

    Your blogs are so amazing – I love them! You look so gorgeous in that coat! Along with Mr Forever!
    Last week was rough. My son and wife and 3 grandchildren were here from Florida because they are building a house near Ada and will be moving here in August. They were here for 6 days and I realized they had decisions to make etc. regarding the house, but I only saw them for two hours total, and that was just not enough. Every time I suggested something it wouldn’t work out so I was bummed. I got a forwarded text from my pastor’s wife which read: Do you ever feel like you live in a reality TV show? Well, I don’t let others interfere with my joy! That’s their mess. I will pray for God to work it out like He has for me. I’m Free! She had no idea what I was experiencing and it came just at the right time. A “God Wink”

  4. JACKIE BULSON on April 29, 2019 at 12:39 am

    I love this story. So uplifting and it certainly shows the love our father has for you.
    I believe he sends our special friends to us just when we need them and he has sent me several, my time with them is so fun, and precious . I know they came from my father and I am so thankful he always knows just what I need.

    • Robyn Dykstra on April 29, 2019 at 2:33 am

      Jackie, you are so right. When we know we aren’t alone in our trials it makes them bearable and our triumphs even sweeter to celebrate.

  5. Jill on April 29, 2019 at 1:46 am

    I love this mink coat story Robyn. God loves to surprise us with gifts. When I worked as a volunteer coordinator, I saw people who came to me offering to help as a gift from God, since I did nothing to recruit them. I began to pray that God would surprise others like He did for me. I don’t always get extravagant gifts from Him, but His love is extravagant enough!

    • Robyn Dykstra on April 29, 2019 at 2:32 am

      Oh Jill, thanks for writing and sharing this wonderful perspective. God’s love is enough. 🙂

  6. Michelle M. Butler on April 29, 2019 at 10:24 pm

    Hi Robyn. Thank you so much for sharing. God is on time every time. When we least expect it He’s always taking care of our needs
    (as well as our wants). May God continue to Bless you and Mr. Wonderful.

    • Robyn Dykstra on April 29, 2019 at 10:54 pm

      Thank you, I receive that. 🙂

  7. Siobhain(shavon) Weston on May 3, 2019 at 8:11 pm

    Love that story Robyn. You look AMAZING in that fur coat, by the way, girlfriend . What a precious lady who is a gift to you!
    Just this week, I had gratitude for the gifts of my knees and how well they work and feel. I had a very physical work assignment and was glad to bend and lift with no issues.
    One knee was an ACL repair and it took 7 months of rehab and an intensive surgery to correct. The other knee was injured when someone I was caring for fell on me, tearing the cartilage. I was facing surgery for that and the Lord miraculously healed it while at a Joyce Meyer conference. The healing was later verified by the orthopedic doctor. Today, I rejoice in a bit of discomfort after an intensive yoga class. Pain itself can be a gift..it lets me know I am alive!

    • Robyn Dykstra on May 4, 2019 at 4:49 pm

      Hey Siobhain,
      Thanks for writing. That’s such a powerful testimony.

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